A Mother Talks About
Life in a Spiritual Community.
Tina Madison, mother of
three, moved to the Ananda Community at the very beginning.
Tina Madison's family moved to the Bay Area from Taiwan when
she was two years. Tina has lived for most of her life in Palo
Alto, and graduated from Stanford in 1974 with a B.S. in human
biology. "I was really interested in how the body works
and how you could enhance your quality of life," she recalls.
Tina worked as a physical therapist in private practice before
marrying and becoming a full-time mother.
We talked with Tina at her apartment in the Mountain View
Ananda Community, where she now lives with her husband, Don
Madison, an electronics engineer, and their three children, Liana,
Benjamin, and Anjali. Tina and Don have been married for 17 years.
Q: How did you become interested in the spiritual path?
A: I had taken yoga classes since about 1975, and I've always
liked to stay in shape. I was involved with gymnastics in school,
and my one great love is dancing. Yoga was part of my fitness
program. One day, I was doing a yoga posture when I entered into
another state of consciousness. I wasn't able to recapture that
experience for a long time, but I think yoga helped me become
aware that my true nature was not really "of this body."
That's been a major pathway for me, approaching the spiritual
through the physical.
At one point, I was feeling very stressed from events that
were happening in my life, when Don said, "Why don't you take
a meditation class?" I saw a flyer for a class at the Ananda
Church on "How to Meditate," so I called and spoke with
David Praver.
I attended the first class, and afterwards I went to the church
office looking for Autobiography of a Yogi. They were out
of stock, but the woman working in the office gave me a
copy of The Path, Swami Kriyananda's autobiography. I
had been reading books by Carlos Castaneda and Lynn Andrews, but
when I read The Path, I began having incredible dreams. The
book had a lot of power for me. It was very, very powerful.
Don and I decided to take the beginning class series in
meditation. That was in 1987 or '88. Looking back, it seems like
there was a huge vortex of spiritual energy for us at that time,
because within a year we had moved to the Ananda community. It was
a grace to be able to do that, and to be able to come into the
community together, as a couple.
Q: What has it meant for you to live in the community?
A: The community was just starting then. We didn't think
we'd be among the first people to move in because we were so new
on the spiritual path. I spent a week at the Expanding Light
retreat at Ananda Village, taking a hatha yoga course, and during
that time I felt very strongly that we should move to the
community.
Q: Was it because you wanted to be with other people who were
following the same path, or were you attracted by the idea of
living in a community?
A: I can't really put my finger on it. We just felt guided to
move in, and it was very difficult, because the apartments were
really hovels when Ananda first acquired the place. We put lots of
money into improving our own apartment, because I don't think I
could have lived here otherwise. It took me at least a year, and
maybe more, to feel like I wanted to stay. When you move into a
spiritual community, you're letting go of lots of
attachments--living in your own home, having your own space. In
this country, everyone wants to have their own little
single-family home. But after a year or so, I remember very
clearly thinking that we just couldn't leave, because it was so
good for Liana, our oldest daughter. We had seen her blossom--not
that she had ever been a problem child, but you could see her open
up, feel her open up. I remember saying that if we left the
community, I was afraid that she would just shrivel.
Q: What was it about living in the community that helped her?
A: I think it was having so many loving souls around. The
children are so blessed here, because they grow up with so
much spiritual support. People who live in their own little houses
probably aren't home all day, and the kids are in school, or
they're in daycare. You don't have as much contact with other
people--you go to work, come back to your home, and then you're
behind closed doors. You don't see your neighbors outside chatting
and doing things together, as you do here, routinely. They might
chat, but you don't have this great space that we have here in the
community, where the children can go out, and I don't actually
have to know where they are.
There are so many different people that the children can talk
to. It is a such great thing for a child to grow up with
validation not just from their own parents but from everyone. They
can see how other people live, because we do live very much as a
big family here, so you get to see the struggles that other
people and their children are going through. And you see lives
being lived spiritually.
Of course, raising children poses difficulties when you're
trying to walk the spiritual path. Raising children is not
something you can hide from. Where are you going to find
seclusion, where you can be alone with God? Where are you going to
find time to meditate? How are you going to take the classes you
wish you could take?
Q: How do you resolve that?
A: Oh, I haven't. I've never been a great meditator, and often
I've felt guilty about that. It's a struggle, but I do find an
attunement through my yoga postures. I've also been able to do
work that's spiritual, teaching classes at the Ananda Sangha. I
find that I'm able to go within while I'm teaching, and that while
I'm there, I'm a better teacher, because the vibration of God's
help is flowing out through me to others. That work is a discrete
entity where I can go and really focus and draw on the spiritual
presence. But in the chaos that's family life, it's more
difficult.
There's no greater blessing in the world than the spiritual
teachings. When I talk to friends who don't have a path, I pray
for them, because life can toss things at you, but with the
teachings that give you a direct inner experience, you know why
you're here. All your deep questions about life are answered
inwardly.
Q: They're not just answered as ideas?
A: They're answered very much through the heart, through how
people strive to live their lives. On the spiritual path, you
realize that everything that comes to you is exactly what you
need. It's wonderful to go through life together with other people
who recognize that, and with whom you can talk about it. You go to
a meeting about planning a new building for the community, and of
course you do have your own feelings, but there's a great
reassurance in knowing that everyone's trying to do God's will.
When you're a child, you know that Mom and Dad will take care
of you. Do you have a problem? Well, they'll take care of it.
But it's also true in a larger sense, that God is taking care of
you. You do your best, but if you screw up, still He'll take care
of it for you. I feel a thousand times blessed to be on this path,
and to be living in the community. It's a life that you feel you
want to shout about and help everyone understand, because it helps
everyone so much. I know that people can only take what they're
ready for, but for me, it's been just the greatest blessing.
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